xemsays NEW ADVICE FROM XEM VANADAMS! "I Now Regret Letting My Best Friend Move In With Me When He Had Nowhere Else To Go" - posted via #XemSays.com 17h
  •   danielday41 It's like you are in my mind...just happened to me...he had to go 14h
  •   gcapital801 Great read!!! 9h

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xemsays NEW ADVICE FROM XEM VANADAMS! "I Can't Stop Checking My Ex's Social Media Now That He Seems Like A Totally Different Person Online" - posted via #XemSays.com 20h

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xemsays #MCM Michael Bakari Jordan - here he is Saturday night arriving to the Mayweather fight. Michael is bulking up to star in the Rocky inspired boxing film, Creed. can't wait for all of the shirtless promo pics to surface 2d

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xemsays HAPPY 30TH BIRTHDAY to one of my good friends & premiere supporters @4theloveofdevious! Existing as one of the three individuals that I actually talk to on a daily basis, Duante has easily become one of my real life favorites. I know him in ways that many others dont, as he doesnt shy away from revealing the true essence of his character through our intimate conversations & engaging interactions. I always joke with him and our mutual friend Nate by saying that their secrets, stories & accompanying pics are going to serve as material for my first best-selling novel. I wake up just about every morning & fall asleep each night to such telling narratives of what happens behind DC's closed doors. LOL! - but beyond the surface laughter and sideline commentary, this man believes in me. He tells me personally & has displayed it publicly over the past 6 years - always one of the first to push my work to the front lines. That's a big deal to me. I am literally witnessing his transition into a leader through his LGBT activism, HIV prevention services & involvement amongst the top tier of the communities ballroom circuit. I'm incredibly proud to be aligned with this man. I can't wait to sit back in two weeks as his hard work & commitment is brought to fruition as thousands will flood the DMV to #WatchTheThrone. May his journey continue to serve as an example to others that popularity means nothing without productivity & purpose. I shall see you tonight toots! @4theloveofdevious 4d

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xemsays screw all of the other fancy features. can I take a simple photo or record a video today?... 1w

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xemsays don't be deceived. 2w

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xemsays NEW ARTICLE FROM XEM VANADAMS! - "Another Holiday Weekend Where My So Called Friends Didn't Bother To Include Me In Their Group Plans" ... now posted via #XemSays.com 2w

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xemsays NEW ARTICLE FROM XEM VANADAMS! - "Another Holiday Weekend Where My So Called Friends Didn't Bother To Include Me In Their Group Plans" ... now posted via #XemSays.com 2w
  •   kiareau So cute 2w
  •   tellisd1 Great article Xem! 2w
  •   sizzlestylist I just found out my grandmother is having something at her house today and you're more than welcome to come @xemsays 2w
  •   gcapital801 Great read Xemmy bear!!! 2w

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Lo-fi Xem VanAdams

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xemsays I must admit that I am very happy to see the summer season coming to an end. I can't say that I have experienced anything new or invigorating that will seal these past few months into my fondest memories. Each day seemed to bleed into the next. Other than writing here or taking a walk there, nothing special happened. However, there are still 4 months left in 2014, so I plan to do SOMETHING that will allow me to end the year on a HIGH note. I have no idea what that 'something' shall be, but I will of course show & tell you all about it when the time comes.
#nowplaying ALEX ISLEY: Into Orbit
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xemsays awe... 3w

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xemsays just posted via twitter.com/xemvanadams 3w

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xemsays Beyonce giving you all angles on #vmas red carpet. 3w

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xemsays Katy Perry & Riff Raff copy/pay tribute to Britney & Justin from 2001 #vmas red carpet. 3w

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xemsays PRECIOUS. Kelly Rowland very pregnant on 2014 #vmas red carpet. 3w

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xemsays NICKI or IGGY? 2014 #VMAs red carpet. 3w

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xemsays HAPPY BIRTHDAY to the Real Housewife Of Baltimore - my Iyonna @_fancyfree! The story goes...she and I met in September 1992 when Ms. Broom thought it would be a good idea to sit her smart ass directly beside me at the math table towards the back of the room. This little girl with a long ponytail and goldendy lipgloss would find any reason to taunt or torment me. She talked about my breath. She would point out the fact that I had a piece of lent on my shirt. She bragged about her 93 test score in comparison to my 81. LOL! She was horrible - a transfer student with an attitude that has grown into my "boss bitch with a red pen". The thing is, Iyonna has always been the friend that reinforced my rebel behavior. We grew up with the mentality, "We get good grades. We stay out of trouble. What are 'they' going to do?" EXACTLY! No one was going to make either of us do what we didn't think was fair, sensible or necessary.

Even as I watch Iyonna as a married woman, she has never surrendered her identity or traded her determination to be what others may dictate a wife or medical professional to be. That's one of the qualities I most admire about this lady. In 22 years, despite every challenge, trial & triumph that has pierced her life, Iyonna has never waived her right to lead or love her inner being just as she is.

Because we grew up during a time when TALKING ON THE PHONE and WRITING LETTERS were the premiere methods of communication, our relationship was bonded by that constant connection. There wasnt a night we didnt talk or even in college, a week we wouldnt write to one another. Now, we never talk on the phone & only see one another at the Woods Estate two, maybe three times each year. LOL! While the majority of the physical space is my fault or my doing, Iyonna allows me to exist in this tunnel - knowing I'd always come out to support or stand alongside her.
I LOVE YOU FANCY
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEETHEART!
3w

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xemsays weigh in... 4w
  •   joebreaves Ask permission first. Have a clear and realistic timeline. Be honest about whether your space is big enough to handle three lives 4w
  •   zebuloncrawford As long as their mate can respectfully deal with my Nudist lifestyle. (A brotha needs his freedom to swing... If you know what I mean) 4w
  •   hrhglenni If it were my bf that fell on harsh times, I'll talk it over with my roommate(s) first and try to pick up the extra costs so they're not burdened. I have to understand that it could affect their comfort levels and will do my best to ease that. I will need to consider relocation options for bf or the both of us if the situation starts to get unpleasant. I expect the very same courtesy. 4w
  •   ayque_rico Hmmmmm..... there must be a mutual understanding BEFORE 4w
  •   tyirhodes24 Well just split the bills 3 ways. No freeloading. 4w
  •   klassymcklass No but the third wheel needs to pay a third of the bills. 4w
  •   jus_tna If the place is big enough, the new roomie is clean and neat and responsible.. Then sure.: I can use extra cash 3w

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xemsays NEW ORIGINAL CONTENT FROM XEM VANADAMS!: "Men & Their Obsession With Shoes: It's Not Only A Female Fetish" - now posted via #XemSays.com - "You Don't Have To Live In Hollywood To Be A Star" - now posted via #XemSays.tumblr.com 4w

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