xemsays Taraji aint playing wit yall! 5h

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xemsays Michael Bakari Jordan's selfie game is on this weekend! He is in full promo mode for the anticipated release of his "Fantastic Four" summer blockbuster. Come on thick upper lip! -- you see the pic I posted earlier of him sitting shirtless on the edge of his bed?😈 7h

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xemsays I NEED 100% INVOLVEMENT FROM MY READERS, VIEWERS & SUPPORTERS!

When I release “Love, Dating & Relationships Between Men: The iPhone Group Chat Live (Washington, DC)” segment on Sunday, August 16, 2015, I really need ALL OF YOU to watch the video within the first 24 hours. Please do not wait and put off viewing the video until later in the week or the following weekend as many of you often do. I need your viewership within the first 24 hours. The video will be released to youtube.com/XemVanAdams, XemSays.com and XemSays.tumblr.com between 8:00pm EST and 9:00pm EST. There will not be the usual reposting of the video link on any of my social media platforms. The link will appear only ONCE.

PLEASE leave all of your comments directly beneath the video. In the past 7 years, I have received the MAJORITY of your comments and feedback in my various social media inboxes, via email or in my notifications. For this particular video release, please say EVERYTHING in the comment section, directly beneath the actual video. Even if you have NEVER posted a blog or video comment since September 2007, I need you to make this release the first time you actually step outside of your comfort zone and PUBLICLY comment. I stepped outside of my comfort zone majorly to create this project. Also, I need each of you to physically “LIKE” the video. It does not matter if the video has already received 300+ or 500+ “LIKES”. Yes, you clicking the THUMBS UP button does matter and truly does make a difference.

A LOT of important individuals will be watching and paying attention to how this video is received. One of the major differences between my platform and those of my contemporaries is that even though my stat sheets prove that my articles are being read by mass audiences and my videos are being seen by thousands, the PUBLIC FEEDBACK isn’t as evident. For whatever reason, you all will only contact me privately, and that does nothing to prove to the POWERS THAT BE that I am able to successfully engage an audience.

I truly need you all to come through for me this time.

THANK YOU!
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xemsays MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT... he knows EXACTLY what he's doing to get yall in those movie theatre seats on Friday to support his starring role in "Fantastic Four" -- my Michael Bakari Jordan 18h
  •   xemsays @jefe.the.great 🏾I have BEEN convinced! 18h
  •   jefe.the.great Lol I can't wait to go see this movie. I'm going to be like a little school girl at a football game 18h
  •   swiftontherise When I saw them gains I said yup going! Because gains should always be supported and appreciated right? 18h
  •   itsryan2u He had me at hello! 18h
  •   hartindy123 Xem, I have my own Michael B Jordan support group going. We are ten and counting as of today, it may be more by opening day. We so love the candy!! Lol 18h
  •   xemsays @swiftontherise absolutely they should! 17h
  •   xemsays @itsryan2u I understand the feeling man😀 -- I understand the feeling. 17h
  •   xemsays @hartindy123 I wish I could go with you guys! 17h

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xemsays because in my opinion, success is when you get paid to do something you love and that passion somehow affects the lives and journey of those who exist around you. and by that definition, in this very moment, for the first time in 8 years.... I actually FEEL successful. I truly do. God has been sooo GOOD to me! Thank you Lord for pulling me forward. 1d
  •   slyken2002 Amen... Continue seeking Him first and everything else will be added unto you. 15h

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xemsays have you ever looked at someone while they're doing something small like driving or eating and just smile because you like them so much? 2d

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xemsays MISS. CAITLYN 2d
  •   shorty_complex Come on Jenner leg! 2d
  •   davidsingletary YES GAWD!! 2d
  •   starpower Bruce 2d
  •   xemsays @starpower I initially wasn't going to say anything to you, but a part of my purpose on earth obviously is to teach and lead others. It is blatantly disrespectful to call a transgender individual by their biological name once they have completed their transition or even once they have announced the name or pronoun that they prefer. I encourage you to set aside any ill or intolerant feelings you may have against Caitlyn and acknowledge her as she has publicly presented herself. If you choose not to, then please do not ever again come on any of my social media pages to disrespect the other transgender individuals I may post later. I am not being smart, but you have to understand that what you have done is wrong and completely unacceptable here. 5h

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xemsays conscious choices in support of ones vision will bring desired changes into manifestation. 2d

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xemsays HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY LITTLE BROTHER NICKY! @nickaboo85 -- From the 15 year old boy sitting across from me at Planet Hollywood, SCREAMING into his cell phone every 3 minutes, to the grown man with a chosen career who is now too busy to even reply to a text message, you have truly transitioned into your manhood. There was a time when our summer days would be spent with you fixing me oodles & noodles (your specialty), and I would eat then fall asleep between your bedroom walls that were plastered in posters & photos of Alicia Keys + Aaliyah. You were OBSESSED with them! I'd wake up to you designing a new t-shirt or putting glitter + studs on a matching bandana. You had all of these disposable cameras spread everywhere and would take new photos of yourself daily, dressed in your latest creations. I remember you being 16 or 17 years old, sneaking off to DC against my wishes to spend time with your then boyfriend. LOL! I was so afraid that something would happen to you being alone on the train or outside walking through that Southwest area without me being there to protect you. You avoided me for an entire week afterwards because you knew you wouldn't be able to lie to my face and say you were somewhere else. When you finally told me, though I had already found out from Lisa, I just remember thinking -- this boy really has NO FEAR. And even though that was such a small ordeal for you, it was a very big deal to me. That's how you have always lived your life -- free and unafraid. You credit me for making so many contributions to your life, but as I told you last August at the cookout, you helped me open myself completely to the world. Watching you grow up and witnessing how you've always thrown caution to the wind often times pulled me out of my very rigid routine. I learned from you that life is too short to constantly WORRY about what could happen or possibly go wrong. And while I didn't always approve of the day to day decisions you made, I am extremely proud of how those decisions have shaped your life. You are one of my treasures -- and I shall keep you buried deep within my prayers and future promises of an unbroken brotherhood. I LOVE YOU eternally. 3d

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xemsays #MCE Michael Bakari Jordan sitting inside of the little Playstation suite during the Comic Con festivities🏾 -- I will be seeing his "FANTASTIC FOUR" movie next Friday night at the Arundel Mills Cinemark theatre if you'd like to join me. 3d
  •   nyasha_l How much is bail for overly obsessive stalker stans??? I hope your friends are able to contribute because I will NOT deplete my savings 3d
  •   xemsays @nyasha_l SECURITY 3d

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xemsays "LOVE, DATING & RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN MEN": since television networks and production studios have been hesitant up until recently about showcasing a balance in the representation of our daily lives and interactions, I decided to have another example filmed for public viewing -- the types of conversations we really are having behind closed doors amongst one another.

_______________________________ -/- AUGUST 16th: between 8:00pm EST & 9:00pm EST -/- youtube.com/XemVanAdams, XemSays.com + XemSays.tumblr.com
_______________________________ the iPhone group chat live: Washington DC -- NATE, XEM, DUANTE, BRANDON, CHRISTOPHER and MATTHEW.
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xemsays that early morning commute😈 4d

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xemsays “FORGIVENESS DOES NOT REQUIRE ME TO BE YOUR FRIEND’

written by Xem VanAdams for XemSays.com

One of the toughest parts of adulthood is probably letting go of people who once upon a time we assumed would exist forever – having to make a final decision to cut off a relationship that has begun to create stress, sadness and personal anguish. We sometimes battle with a sense of guilt for ending these friendships, regardless of how miserable or one-sided they’ve become. And its simply because this individual has existed alongside us for so many years. We naively convince ourselves that if someone has acted amongst our circle as a long-term friend, then somehow that’s the role this person is “supposed” to always play in our lives.

Time and time again, we leave from spending time with this person or interacting with them over the phone, and there’s a consistent feeling of frustration. You sense that the two of you are growing apart, but somehow, you can’t pinpoint why the closeness or even comfort level in being in their company has changed. Then, as you begin to replay the past few months or recent years over in your head, things become a bit more clear.

For a little too long now, you’ve been making excuses in order to keep this “friend” in your life. Their time expired quite some time ago, but in order to have them around, you’ve allowed yourself to suffer – to play backseat to their selfish ways, inconsiderate decisions, sneaky behavior and dismissive attitudes.

Over the past few months, your friend has not been physically or emotionally as present for you as you have always been for them. Their go-to reason or explanation continues to be the fact that they are “going through stuff” or don’t feel like being around people and simply need space to think. And that would be understandable if the two of you were merely associates, but you never shut this friend out of your life when you too were going through your own dark moments and personal storms. 🏾READ THE FULL ARTICLE via #XemSays.com + #XemSays.tumblr.com
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  •   jaiden_elijah Lmao...no, i don't! 5d
  •   zebuloncrawford I am going through this right now... You are so Connected!!! See Xem? This is why You will be legendary, because you are Very Relatable!!! 5d
  •   xemsays @zebuloncrawford I just love you to pieces! Always so encouraging and supportive of my journey. So glad this piece connects to one of your present situations sir Crawford. 5d
  •   slyken2002 Wow... Xem this was my story...especially when they say "they are going through stuff". One thing I have learned through the process is accepting when a person's role is over in my life, and most importantly, embracing the gift of goodbye. 5d
  •   joelangeldotcom Wellllll stated 4d
  •   xemsays @slyken2002 I think that's the toughest part -- really having to accept that the chapter is ending and being willing to open the new one without certain characters transitioning over. 4d
  •   xemsays @joelangeldotcom I appreciate the feedback man 4d
  •   scotty4hair Omg I had to do this a few months ago....an the sad but true part is I don't even miss him.thas how I kno my decision was the right one 17h

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xemsays entertaining myself in the bathroom as I was patiently waiting for Shannon to get dressed on Sunday 5d

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xemsays Zaxembi & Shannon:
Sunday, July 26, 2015 -- since August, 1986. lifelong friends. extended family ...
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  •   itsbilalbitch my make out partner!!! give her a kiss for me 6d
  •   xemsays @itsbilalbitch I totally remember yall making out at my damn birthday party in 2008. 6d
  •   itsbilalbitch I was going through my bisexual phase 6d
  •   dome.peace.she_izm I was just thinking about her and that raspy voice 2 days ago. How is she??? Tell her I said hey! 6d

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xemsays remember that. 1w

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Valencia Xem VanAdams
xemsays A U G U S T. 1 6 th. youtube.com/XemVanAdams + XemSays.com + XemSays.tumblr.com -- LOVE, DATING & RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN MEN (the iPhone group chat live: Washington, D.C.) @4theloveofdevious @psycho_gemini @jaiden_elijah @me_poppa @bgldnboi 1w

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xemsays thank him now!🏾 1w

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xemsays A U G U S T. 1 6 th. youtube.com/XemVanAdams -- LOVE, DATING & RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN MEN (the iPhone group chat live: Washington, D.C.) 1w

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xemsays “The iPhone Group Chat Live: Washington DC – Love, Dating & Relationships Between Men” will be released on SUNDAY, AUGUST 16, 2015 to commemorate the 7 year anniversary of my first viral video upload on AUGUST 16, 2008, “Young, Black & Gay In America”. The 30 minute segment will exclusively appear at youtube.com/XemVanAdams, XemSays.com & XemSays.tumblr.com.

The link will be posted to the various Xem VanAdams social media networks only ONCE on August 16th between 8:00pm EST & 9:00pm EST.
I request and encourage ALL of my core readers, viewers and supporters to please WATCH the video segment on the actual night of its debut and to also SHARE the link via your facebook groups, twitter timelines, tumblr accounts, Instagram pages, Google+ circles, personal websites and all other online forums. Feel free as well to capture your favorite visual moments from the recorded discussion and splice them together to create a quick Vine or Snapchat clip with the link to the entire video or youtube.com/XemvanAdams included in your captions.

I am counting on YOU to help me promote and distribute this special video segment as widely as my first video reached while I was living in Los Angeles during the summer of 2008. This is my time for a breakthrough and change. The cycle shifts after your 7th year and August 16th marks that period in my life.
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  •   nikivadionne I'm not sure why this makes me so emotional but I love you, I'm inspired by you, I trust God for every promise concerning you and I'm so excited for THIS SEASON and secretly I pray that God sees fit to send you to LA for bi-coastal ventures because I'm a lil selfish and miss u. #proudofu #8/16/15 1w
  •   slyken2002 This gives me Noah's arc vibe 1w
  •   xemsays @nikivadionne you are such an AMAZING woman and a very infectious spirit. It is clear to me that God intentionally made that first apartment option a NO GO when I first arrived to LA because he wanted you to be by my side during that first month transition. Your miracles and blessings were a cushion to my discomforts, as your present prayers are soothing to this journey I continue to travel. I LOVE YOU MY DEAR and I thank you for supporting the dream. Gods plan for us both is so much larger than we have envisioned -- simply because we've sacrificed and have followed his order. THANK YOU! 1w

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