lorealdanee "...But I didn’t realize how serious I was until I was put to a test. A “pop quiz” of sorts. LOL. Fairly recently, I ran into him and we ended up going to a casual dinner. I actually had a great time. You know why? Because I literally had no more room to be angry or hurt or anything remotely close to emotionally affected by what happened between us. Sure I still care, but I’m just over it. And not even in a bitchy way like “f*ck him.” It’s just behind me. Finally. And I didn’t really know that until I walked away from that table feeling free; as light as a feather....Sure I had heard the words before but hadn’t thought about the term since sometime right after college. Compassion fatigue is a term used in many fields, including psychology and social work. It’s “a condition characterized by a gradual lessening of compassion over time.” It is common among individuals that are regularly exposed to... • • •

Just like your body can give up on a workout, lifting weights or running laps around the track, your mind, your emotions can become depleted to a specific situation, even to a specific person. Eventually you’re just burnt out. YOUR well being. YOUR happiness becomes the priority over all of the passes, excuses and benefit of the doubt you’ve been handing out like coupons from the Sunday newspaper. • • •

Like doctors, nurses, psychologists, etc, this can be both good and bad. If a Dr. takes home every single case and failed surgery, it’s easy to become depressed and could make them less effective at their jobs. So a little bit of fatigue can be good for you. It’s your mind forcing you to do what’s needed for your own personal progression. On the other hand, that defense mechanism can make one emotionally cold and once you’re too far gone, you can become a shell of your former self with no..."Read more at IAmSuperGorge.com. #SGSG #IAmSuperGorge
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lorealdanee yesterday, I made this incredibly vintage picstitch (LOL) for my good friend Layton's birthday. Somehow I forgot to post it. But I love you and appreciate all of the laughs, love, and memories we've shared over the last 10+ years. #LordThesePics #StartedFromTheBottomNowWeHere Love you Lay!! also a teeny FYI, there were soooo many good pics to choose from, many in which we were laughing so hard we were crying...another reason I love you. 2w

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lorealdanee "...but then one day as I was waiting for that acknowledgement, I saw this quote by Robert Brault, "Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got." And that very day I decided I should stop waiting. But why after all of this time do I still feel things are unresolved... Anywhoo, after dissecting my mental findings, her and I came to the conclusion that there are probably millions of women who are still waiting for that apology, but just to keep their sanity, they accept what is and move on with their lives....Fast forward months later, she sends me a text from one of her life's great loves. We both got emotional and were frankly appalled at how forthcoming he was not only about his feelings for her but most importantly taking responsibility for the way shattered her heart, saying, "I know it's weird writing this to you but life speeds by and there is no time to leave the words unspoken. I want to share a few of my thoughts and feelings from these last few months. (1) You deserve an award for making it 10 years with a man like me. We both know I'm not easy to love. I'm beyond selfish, don't think much, make jokes in every situation, and you could always count on me to misbehave. I have taken more than my fair share of risks over our years together. That's the problem with being married to a person who didn't know how to love. In many ways, my life is like a room full of dynamite...and I sit in that room playing with matches and gasoline too often. But you hung in there. I realize now that even though we had some real success, it took a toll on those I loved. And for that I am truly sorry..." Read more @ IAmSuperGorge.com #SGSG #IAmSuperGorge 2w

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lorealdanee Monday Mood: 🏽 2w

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lorealdanee If I had my way today I would have 2 incredibly huge reasons to celebrate. At this very moment, I would be leaving church with my Mother and I would be a glowing 8 months pregnant. But as we all know, things don't always go our way and the world we live in isn't dictated singularly by our personal desires. For whatever reasons beyond me, God saw fit for things to go His way and for my vision of today to be just that. My idea. My vision. In His plan though, I'm having a lovely montage of previous Mother's Days and 28 years of love that I was able to share with my amazing Mom and thinking of someday in the future with my own children where I'm being honored and celebrated. However, today isn't that day and in all of my usual transparent glory l can say I'm more accepting of that each day. Many moons ago, I decided that I will not allow the things that happen to me to dictate who I am, and leave me as a wallowing victim of circumstance. Life has handed me lemons as I'm sure we've all had our share, but all in all, I'm thankful for the many ups and downs that have molded my armor of resiliency. I've learned that my lot in life is to share my stories, so I say this to all of the individuals who are not celebrating with their Mothers today or have lost a child so your today is far different than you imagined...focus on what today actually is. It's a new, bright day to embrace what you DO HAVE; to reflect on how your experiences will mold you into being better. Cry a little bit, reflect and get back up. Easier said than done at times, but it's more than possible. Thank God you're still standing and for the ability to welcome the next challenge with Him on your side. Lastly, Happy Mother's Day to all of the incredible Moms out there. You wear a SuperWoman cape, make miracles happen and are responsible for creating the future. Have a blessed day everyone!
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lorealdanee ain't worried 'bout nothing. #RedMapleDayParty #SundressesANDFedoras 3w

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