kchk21 Learning about the food pyramid and my plate by cutting food out of magazines. I have that this will help minimize the fighting about meals. #homeschool #howweschool #stupidlyoptomistic 1h

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kchk21 #timehop #knittogetherbyadoption Day 6 : Preparation We did all the paperwork and classes. We did all the home visits and family discussions. We bought a crib and pulled the toddler beds from storage. We bought bedding and bottles and toys and toothbrushes. We prayed. We declared ourselves ready. But the truth is, you're never really prepared. It's always a steep learning curve to understand the new little people that were handed to you by a social worker. There isn't a class on how fireworks sound like gunshots and your foster baby will scream for hours after hearing them. Nothing could prepare you for the way your life and heart are torn to bits and rearranged completely. No one can explain the peculiar grief of not knowing where those babies are now and how they're doing and how deeply you still love them. You'll never really be prepared but they were never prepared for the chaos they're in so the best you can do is love them for as long as you have them and pray that they're safe after they leave your arms. 4h

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kchk21 It's such a shame none of my kids love babies or help take care of Olivia 19h

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kchk21 I have a million things to do but this grumpy boy has fallen asleep holding tight to my shirt. So I'll just be here, holding my baby. 20h
  •   beckywenrich I am in a very similar position in my living room at this time... 20h

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kchk21 #knittogetherbyadoption Day 5 : Paperwork
This is our basic paperwork that we'll need for any homestudy/dossier. Marriage and birth certificates, letter from our landlord, tax statements, pet health certificates, vehicle registrations, contact information for our references, etc. Gathering this information is always my least favorite part so now we just keep it together always.
In the words of our social worker "Kill a tree, get a kid"
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kchk21 A little cosmic kids yoga before bed #latergram 1d

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kchk21 K'nex are officially a hit in our house! 2d

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kchk21 Doctors office with these three and the baby 2d
  •   marymuses So many assistants! You must be super important. 2d

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kchk21 When i took this picture a year ago, on our second day of parenting Isaiah, I was completely overwhelmed with how smitten I was. Now, after a year of learning my baby boy, I see that even in his sleep he was trying to be alert. He wasn't relaxed or resting peacefully. Now I see how absolutely terrified my baby was and it breaks my heart. 2d

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kchk21 #knittogetherbyadoption Day 4: On The Same Page
Before we were married we had discussed adoption. Both of us hd family histories of adoption so it wasn't a foreign or scary concept at all. Once we had what we thought was our complete family (two girls, two boys) I admitted that I wasn't ready to be completely done. I wanted to do foster care and Safe Families and once David understood that I had no desire to adopt again, he was completely on board. For us, foster parenting was never about building our family. It felt like a unique position at the time, to be fostering without intending to adopt again but I've found lots of other families now who are doing the same. For us, being on the same page meant agreeing that we wanted to be a safe, loving place for kids to land on the way to their forever families (whether that be bio or adopted). #fostercare #safefamilies #adoption
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  •   kyleemarissa Love that! My parents also went into foster care with no intention of adopting (almost 15 years ago now)...but I think that it's something that's becoming more prevalent now. Which I LOVE. And hey, my parents ended up adopting 4, so, you never know 2d
  •   kchk21 @kyleemarissa I'm glad it's becoming more common! Adoption is wonderful (it gave me five kids) but it is a trauma and helping a family figure out how to stay together is wonderful too. While we were fostering we did end up adopting again but from disruption, not foster care. 2d
  •   knittogetherbyadoption This is the only practice in my province. If you want to adopt you can't Foster but must get on the adoption list. 24h
  •   knittogetherbyadoption Also I was wondering if I could us this photo for a collage for who all is doing the adopt share challenge this month. It is my heart for those involved not only write posts to bring awareness but read each other's to build community. Many are private so I wanted to get everyone's permission to just make a collage with tagging them so we can follow each other. 24h
  •   crystalschandelier I kind of think you are totally awesome. 14h

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kchk21 He decided that he needed to throw the frisbee from in the tree 3d

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kchk21 Trying to have a serious discussion with this guy. It's not going well. 3d

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kchk21 Charming as always 3d

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kchk21 #knittogetherbyadoption Day 3 : Concerns
What if I don't ever love them like a mom? What if they never love each other? What if they're the "kill kittens and burn down the house" kind of crazy everyone says adopted kids are? What if we never have a free moment again? What if they have attachment issues or RAD or they just hate us? What if we're terrible parents? What if we don't know how to help them?
What if we fail? What if we can't heal the bottomless well of sadness from being torn away from their birth family and everything familiar?
What if they love their birth parents more than us? What if they want to leave us and go back to their birth family? What if they blame us for not doing enough?
What if this is the biggest mistake we've ever made?
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  •   ourmisfitisle "What if they kill kittens and burn down the house" I'm so glad I'm not alone, I had this same fear whenwe started. My husband had nightmares for weeks of them killing our cat over and over again. 3d
  •   harmonilove7 Beautifully said️.... My worries too with my adopted daughter & foster kids! 3d
  •   knittogetherbyadoption YES! Thank you for sharing the big concerns. The ones no one wants to speak. I have had these concerns and still do most days 2d

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kchk21 One year ago in a hotel in Little Rock we were handed a terrified three year old boy. This year has been a steep learning curve in parenting five kids with their own unique traumas and abandonment issues. When we brought Isaiah home I was terrified that we would never find our balance again. One year later I see all the progress and change, I see how we have knit ourselves in to a family, I see how perfectly this band of weirdos belong to one another. Adding Zay was the most terrifying leap of faith we've ever taken but it was so completely worth it. Happy family-versary baby boy. We love you to the moon and back, always and forever, no matter what. Thanks for being ours and thanks for choosing us. 3d

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kchk21 The Mysterious Benedict Society is serious business 5d

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kchk21 This was the trip when we met Isaiah and brought him home. We hadn't told anyone that this was happening. We just drove down holding hands and praying and hoping for the very best thing to happen for that little boy. #timehop 5d

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kchk21 The kids saw this picture of John Lennon at lunch today and immediately said "Look Mama! It's Harry Potter!" I'm not sure if I should be proud or concerned. 5d

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kchk21 I found this in my bed 6d

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