jes099 Yet we do settle don't we? If it's not our careers, it's our love lives. And settling becomes a condition we can all fall prey to... A fear of being alone, failure, and we even fear success and things actually working out and our dreams coming true. Settling is bullshit. It is our desire to live safe and make "good" - "good enough". Fuck good enough. I have no interest in living a life where i wake up besides mediocrity every morning. Because you know what will happen when you settle in love? Your relationship will make you resentful because it will be a daily reminder of your inability to take risks and your fear of actually living what is true for you. Remember on the other side of every time you "settle" is someone or something that is being settled for. Imagine if that was you! Imagine if someone thought you were just "good enough"?! How selfish of you to live in fear and avoid your truth - and that not allow someone else to love all out. We need to choose to want more. We need to stop talking about all the things we want and ACTUALLY start choosing them. You are not on this planet to live a life you wished was different. Your job is to choose to live the kind of life you love. And when you love your life how much easier is it to find and keep love alive? Spoiler alert: much easier. 14h

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jes099 "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
~ Carl Jung
It's so important that we understand ourselves and why we do what we do. It is absolutely 100% our responsibility to understand our emotional triggers and why we choose what we choose. Because till we do we will often choose things subconsciously that might not be ideal. We'll respond to situations and people as not our best selves... And lose and hurt people along the way. Because we've been hurt and haven't healed it yet. Let's pay attention to our pain because through healing it is how we love.

Look into your web and your heart. You deserve great love, and in order to create it you must build the skills that go into doing that. You must heal the hurt that limits your ability to connect deeper.
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jes099 Life takes a an interesting turn when we begin to trust it... To trust that this world, this universe, God, whatever your word is, has our back. That everything and everyone are connected, and that the very thing that unites us is love.

I was thinking today about the concept that we are all made of stardust... That perhaps we're all actually planets and stars... Each playing a part in what we call the solar system. We are taught to think of ourselves as different or separate from nature and our worlds... But what if everything we do, say and feel, are acts that affect one another and how we orbit each other?
It's such a powerful thought to think that we are all one and that our job is not to protect our separateness, but instead to absolve it so that we can trust and let go... And choose to be the light that everyone needs.

The moment we acknowledge our innate light we begin to realize that we are the sun... And we have just as much power as it does to light up this planet.
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jes099 Make sure you put on a condiment.

Happy hump day.
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jes099 We never have to inspire someone to meet us on the bridge... And some people think this is very dismissive and that it means we reject the idea that relationships require effort. That it encourages people to give up, or abandon relationships.
Here's the very important distinction: it is a very different thing to support and encourage someone who WANTS TO and is ACTIVELY doing the work. Because actions match true desires and intentions. If they're not moving towards it in some way or another, they're not meeting us on the bridge.
Love flows so beautifully when we stop trying to force it to flow and we begin to let it flow. We just have to let it.
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  •   bannrmn In addendum to your thoughts I'd like to add an observation. Pragmatically people sometimes are not even looking for love but are rather looking for some ideal of what love is. A form of love. Which is really an irrational desire for the "love" our parents gave to us as children. 6d
  •   bannrmn Real love takes maturity and understanding of the topics and the why's. An introspective behavior that leads to action 6d

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jes099 We are not locked by our past decisions. You owe no one a life commitment who you committed to with an awareness that lacked the ability to see the truth.
As time passes we gain knowledge, experience and insights. We build strength, we learn, and sometimes we unlearn lifelong stories and patterns. The death of a family member, health scares and something as simple as a book wakes us up to our destructive choices, behaviors, and even to the disruptive people around us.
It's interesting once this light comes on... Because you can't turn it off. You can't unlearn spiritual growth and a lighting bolt to your soul. In these moments we are literally being invited to rise up and become who we were always meant to be... Or continue down a path which is neither healthy, nor happy.
Answer this call. Take the road that appears to be tougher... Because i promise that the work only appears hard. But that work - is a gift. And all those fears you have are really fears of staying the same.
You are meant to dream big, love big and live big. You are meant to live as someone with virtue and in the integrity of your heart. Be someone of great character and only invite those with great character to surround you.
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  •   suavebuilder I needed to see this ! Thanks for the positive message 🏽 1w
  •   bannrmn Sure and to further caveat it's realistic to expect that people will grow apart as time goes by. Thats the natural effect of time the reasons why we are involved the tertiary reasons fade.. The meaningful relationships which are a love for the other persons essence those last a life time 6d

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jes099 To mistakes and Sunday's 🏼 1w

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jes099 Love this. 2w
  •   perlachamagoza En las raíces está el alma esa magia y esencia de vida,,, en la flor está la hermosura pero eso no perdura..!!!!...Saludos My feyito.. 2w

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jes099 Isn't it amazing?! How we can love a person, yet watch them choose to be with (or chase) people who either don't want to be with them, or don't love them freely. This can be so confusing.
We can get so hung up on making sense of it...we can spend months...years...convincing ourselves or others that the other person isn't like us...isn't as great of a partner. Maybe it's true... Maybe it's not...but regardless, it's something that can so easily keep us stuck.
sometimes people chase people who don't love them because they don't believe their lovable. Sometimes people chase people who don't love them because they're not ready for great love. Sometimes they do it because they have more to learn. But whatever the reason is...they're still not choosing you.

And that's enough reason for you to stop chasing a person who doesn't love you ALL OUT. That's enough reason for you to start chasing great...ready...love...elsewhere.
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jes099 Such a simple truth. All endings are just beginnings in disguise. 2w

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jes099 Girls aren't indecisive. Who wrote this?! Happy Monday 🏼 2w

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jes099 Today is a day full of emotion. For many it's a beautiful celebration, for others it may be a sad reminder of what was, what never was, or what might never be.

To those who may not have birthed a life but have birthed a life of their own, we honor you. My gosh, those words. To anyone who has contributed in ANY WAY to helping another (or yourself) create, grow, or transform a life... Today is for you.
We don't always realize the impact we have on others, and we certainly don't take enough time to slow down and honor all of the people who have helped get us there. So, today i ask you to reach out to anyone who helped get you there and send a thoughtful message. For those who are no longer with us, i ask you to take a quiet moment and think about the highlights. Today i ask you to celebrate all of the mamas in your life, and to be thoughtful and considerate to those who may be hurting today.

Today we honor you all.
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jes099 Our tribe. Our peeps. Our crew. Our homies.
There is probably no greater influence than who you choose to surround yourself with. I hear people often talk about spending time with people who no longer feel like friends... Giving away moments to connections that feel heavy and withholding their own growth because they fear they'll outgrow those around them. The truth is; we may. And that's ok.
The cost of holding onto people from our past is we don't let go of who we used to be. We don't allow ourselves the space to grow. We don't see that if we surround ourselves with amazing people... By default we just become and feel more amazing. Your tribe is the most powerful invitation to your growth. Your crew helps you soar or becomes the anchor that holds you still.
They are a mirror of us... So in knowing that, do you like what you see?
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jes099 ️ You finnnnnnnne 2w

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jes099 Often the most critical people are those whose lives are the most out of alignment with their preaching. It's a common human condition to judge others when our own lives don't reflect our words. We become confused as to why we're not meeting a great partner with solid values while we're out partying all the time and banging everything that breaths. "How come I haven't met anyone who loves yoga?" Cause you're dancing on a speaker at the club. I'm not saying that's bad - speakers are awesome to dance on... Just don't complain when our lives reflects our choices. When our lives are truly a reflection of our beliefs, needs and wants... We will find exactly what we want. Because the world/universe/God will hear what you're saying and watch what you're doing and if the two don't line up you'll just confuse it/him and yourself. How bad do you want what you say you want? How likely are your actions to produce the desired result? We all inherently know what we need to do, it's just easier to stay the same. I know this all too well. I stayed the same for years. I played small. Everything that invited me to grow and live the life i preached i said "no" to. But once i chose different behavior it brought about different results. And it was then that i had the awareness of what i had been doing... I could no longer go back. So as i remind myself I remind you: quit talking the big talk and let your life serve as an example for all those around you of how good it feels to live and love from an authentic place... And you'll naturally attract someone who does the same. 3w

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jes099 Keep your head up and you'll stop feeling down. 3w

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jes099 It's so hard to resist holding on... To let go of the past and how we envisioned our future. It's challenging to trust that life is synchronistic and it will all work out just as it should. It's such an idealist view of life isn't it? And yet when we're not in the thick of emotions this concept is easy to understand and accept. It's easy when love is flowing and life is making it rain bliss... It's when the storms hit and people feed us this advice that we think, "Thanks for the tip bud. Now piss off... I'm sad." Right?

But the truth is that life is always going to hand us shit. Breakups, deaths, illness, job losses... Whatever the low - they are reality of being human. Our mortality is real. And yet despite the valuable time of each moment that ticks by we hold on to pain rather than feeling it. Why do we do that? The pain is familiar... It reminds us of a certainty we once had. If we had to let go... We enter the space of the unknown. But wow... That's where the magic is.
So if we're in the storm, how do we just let go and trust? How do we know that it will all work out? One must not look far to see that in nature there are no mistakes. There are no accidents. Trees, flowers, animals... None of them think about all of the things... They just trust. We say they lack conscious awareness... But maybe they're the ones who have it all figured out? You don't know what lies in your future... But i can tell you one thing for certain... When space is created in our lives it allows other people and experiences to enter. Your greatest moments are waiting, you just need to let go of the ones which have already passed.
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jes099 The challenge with loneliness is that it often masquerades as a desire for a relationship and/or connection... When the truth is that it is because we so desperately crave a connection to ourselves. Loneliness is birthed when we abandon our hurting hearts by numbing it with the heroine hearts of others.

When we actually take the time to sit through it and finally give ourselves the love and attention we desire, we begin to see that it is the pathway to our greatest growth and evolution. The way out is always through.
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jes099 People who radiate light are my kinds of tribe 3w

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