jes099 Keep your head up and you'll stop feeling down. 1d

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jes099 It's so hard to resist holding on... To let go of the past and how we envisioned our future. It's challenging to trust that life is synchronistic and it will all work out just as it should. It's such an idealist view of life isn't it? And yet when we're not in the thick of emotions this concept is easy to understand and accept. It's easy when love is flowing and life is making it rain bliss... It's when the storms hit and people feed us this advice that we think, "Thanks for the tip bud. Now piss off... I'm sad." Right?

But the truth is that life is always going to hand us shit. Breakups, deaths, illness, job losses... Whatever the low - they are reality of being human. Our mortality is real. And yet despite the valuable time of each moment that ticks by we hold on to pain rather than feeling it. Why do we do that? The pain is familiar... It reminds us of a certainty we once had. If we had to let go... We enter the space of the unknown. But wow... That's where the magic is.
So if we're in the storm, how do we just let go and trust? How do we know that it will all work out? One must not look far to see that in nature there are no mistakes. There are no accidents. Trees, flowers, animals... None of them think about all of the things... They just trust. We say they lack conscious awareness... But maybe they're the ones who have it all figured out? You don't know what lies in your future... But i can tell you one thing for certain... When space is created in our lives it allows other people and experiences to enter. Your greatest moments are waiting, you just need to let go of the ones which have already passed.
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jes099 The challenge with loneliness is that it often masquerades as a desire for a relationship and/or connection... When the truth is that it is because we so desperately crave a connection to ourselves. Loneliness is birthed when we abandon our hurting hearts by numbing it with the heroine hearts of others.

When we actually take the time to sit through it and finally give ourselves the love and attention we desire, we begin to see that it is the pathway to our greatest growth and evolution. The way out is always through.
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jes099 People who radiate light are my kinds of tribe 5d

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jes099 Obviously i don't think exes are poo but all poo jokes are funny. Hahaha. Just appreciate the joke. i hope this puts a smile on your face. Have an amazing day 6d

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jes099 I have been told that my view and belief that anyone can do anything is too optimistic... That my belief and desire for only a "Hell Yeah" is seen as being picky.
And that in the midst of chasing dreams i will miss out of life.

Do you not get that this is what life is about? I would take my view over any other way of seeing the world any day. I can't speak of having mediocre love or pursuing and living work that doesn't satisfy me. My life is an expression of what i speak. I make mistakes, I've lived out of my integrity... And sometimes I'm just on the edge of hope and wonder what life has in store for me. I don't sit in that though... With the skills I've learned I've recognize the blessings in my life. And take full responsibility of my life and understand that i am creating what my life and relationships look like in each moment. I get that believing in and wanting everything you want can be tough. It requires patience and a commitment to what you want. It requires choosing things that are in your integrity when sometimes you don't want to. It demands that we live and be everything we want as we understand that in order to have it we must create it. Keep creating. You're building a you that loves on a high level and a life that feeds every cell in your body.
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jes099 It can be really hard to remember that goodbyes always lead to hellos... That when we're in the storm, that storm has purpose. That the pain and struggles we experience help build the type of person who can learn to fight for love, and even more importantly, ourselves.

I remember after my first breakup when i was 17 i was devastated. It's interesting to look back now and see how ridiculous that seemed... But when we're in it, it can be so hard to see the light at the end. It can feel almost impossible to even fathom that we could ever open our hearts again if devastation is the result.

But we must. We must take our lessons and our scars and learn from them. We must look back at the places where we accepted behavior that wasn't okay... From our partners and from ourselves. We must use relationships and their pains to rise to our highest selves... To see them as an invitation to our greatest growth.

Once we collect the lessons we remove the heaviness of our past, because we give it purpose. And then we use those learnings to open our hearts a little wider, and this time a little smarter.

Not opening our hearts doesn't protect us from heartbreak, it keeps us living in it. Move forward. Say yes. Give your love to the person who needs it and accept theirs in return.
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jes099 The person who ghosted us... The guy who never texted you back, the girl who started dating someone else and never told you. The person who left, the other one who lied.
All of these people have one thing in common:
They suffer from a ridiculously bad case of being below average and mediocre at best.
I don't know about you, but I don't want people who don't know how to show up in my life. But isn't it crazy that people do these things and we spend so much time fighting for them and trying to understand why?! We put more calories into understanding them than they do into themselves. And they just move on like nothing happened.
But here's the catch... We make it about us... When it has nothing to do with us, and everything to do with them and their own issues.

And in understanding and accepting that simple fact - lies one of the greatest keys to your psychological and emotional freedom;

What we make mean rejection, is the universe not allowing us to accept mediocrity, and in a lot of ways, not allow us to be mediocre either.
Look, we've probably all exhibited these behaviors too. And through the hearts we break we can find great lessons into how we're showing up and how we can be better. We can learn how to be kind when we're on the other side of the equation. Rejection is always a pathway to more. Because it gets rid of the shit and makes space for a kick-ass human to enter. Rejection should be celebrated, because it means the universe believes you're capable of more.
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  •   monaaluvz Well well said amigo!! Flex 🏽 and good day to mediocrity 2w

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jes099 A Sunday reminder. 3w

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jes099 So good. 3w

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jes099 Something to think about... The less fortunate are more hungry.

It's not a metaphorical term when you think that a homeless person appreciates the food that they get. When a person is unsure one day after the next they are generally more determined to make sure they survive through the turmoil and hardship.

I would say you are either one of two things, if you had a difficult upbringing 1) either blaming others for your misfortune or 2) taking the misfortune and learning from it so u can avoid staying there forever or teach others.

I was watching a comedy by Chris Rock and he mentioned that people are so concerned with being overweight that they are restricting their calories to look a certain way (I'm no exception and hold my hands up). Those who are starving around the world would never comprehend this concept as looking overweight shows you have a wealth of food to eat. This was obviously paraphrased as he was showing the humor in it.

There are those who walk miles to get a bucket of dirty water. Yet the more fortunate complain over certain brands of bottled water not being pure enough.

Sometimes when you have "it all" you WANT more and do not see what you currently have as a blessing. When you NEED something the desire to get it is somewhat different.
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jes099 Till we understand and are aware of it, most of us choose our partners to complete us. There are parts of us we may not love, and in order to avoid those parts of ourselves we go from relationship to relationship... Living the same relationship patterns and never fully looking within and sitting in that space between "what was" and what "will be". Because in that space we begin to experience our loneliness and feel the wounds that our heart hasn't healed... What we don't realize, is that's where the magic lies.
To become whole is to love all of our parts. It's to undress the BS and actually begin to see what parts of our personality and identities we've created to be loved by others, and what parts of our true, authentic selves, are not being expressed.
To understand that we need to ask ourselves, "If i had no cultural and/or religious influences... If my parents and my friend's opinion didn't matter, who would i be? What sort of life would i be living?" This just scratches the very surface in uncovering the person we've created to be loved.
It can be intense and challenging at first, but i promise you, if you begin to get your life in alignment with what your heart sings for, you will be truly happy and attract the right people into your life.

Why does that scare people? Because most people are in relationships with people they need to avoid themselves, not people they choose.
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jes099 Average minds create ordinary results.

Extraordinary minds create extraordinary results. “Which one are you?”
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jes099 It's easy to lose ourselves in what the world deems important. It's easy to abandon our dreams and even the gym, a yoga class, a hike... All in the name of taking care of the things that are “important”. And the abandonment of what's important to us begins in the seemingly small things and becomes incredibly magnified 1, 2, 5, and 10 years later when the “y” in the road has now led us so far from ourselves. We can now look over at where we would be had we not taken a left where we should've taken a right.
And here's the part that's challenging... A lot of our excuses are bullshit. Yep. Fact.
It's never a matter of resources and always a matter of resourcefulness.

Look, I'm not going to deny that there are time constraints we all have in our lives... There are people who need us to show up for them. But, how often do you show up for them at the cost of yourself? How often do you give and give and give without taking the time to nurture yourself?

How often is “giving” your excuse for not nurturing your own heart?

No one is going to pursue your dreams for you. No one is going to take the first step. No one is going create great boundaries for you and say “no” to the things you say “yes” to. No one else knows you've abandoned what's important to you because according to all the people around you, you're happy.
What's important to everyone around you doesn't have to be the same for you. If you feel like a foreigner in your own life it's probably because you're not in alignment with who you truly are, your passion your dreams. It doesn't mean you have to blow up your world... It means you have to begin to shift your life in the direction of your truth... Ironically you'll find that you stop blaming all those around you when you take responsibility for yourself.
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jes099 "But if we make that connection, if you find your way into my heart, God, I will fall for you like Gravity has let go of the earth." 4w

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jes099 People who call me to be better are my kind of people. Amazing friends make all the difference. I love my tribe. 4w

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jes099 Have you ever learnt a lesson and not changed your life due to it? Have you ever read something or had a conversation where you had an epiphany and you were like, "Oh my gawd! That's it! That's what i need to do!" And then didn't do it?
I'm not going to eff around with this post. I'm going to give it to you straight. Life is about learning and lessons. It's about growing and being allowed to, and encouraged to make mistakes, say the wrong things, love the wrong way, and do things in your life that won't work out. But you are not meant to repeat the same shit over and over and over. From a spiritual perspective we might say that we do need that... We need enough pain to change. But we don't have to wait for deep pain! Growth can come as we recognize the small shift in our energies(intuition) that says "this doesn't feel right" or "something is off here". It becomes deep pain when we ignore the early messages. LISTEN AND LEAP(towards that knowing) because continuous repetition of the same behaviors and choices that WE KNOW hurt us, are just going to cause more and more pain.
You know smoking hurts you? It hurts more not to stop whilst knowing that. You know the relationship you're in breaks your heart... It breaks more to abandon yourself. You know how you learned that one night stands and getting wasted doesn't feel like it aligns with your soul? In the end you're screwing yourself. Ironic right?

It's not good enough to be just "good enough". Fuck. That. (Sorry... Im revved up.) you are on this planet to become your best and highest self. You're here to live a life that makes you and those around you happy. You're here to serve and share love. You cannot do that if you continue to avoid your purpose and your truth and then try numb that pain of not answering the call with temporary bullshit that keeps you asleep. Wake up. Stop hitting snooze on your motha fuckin heart. Be big. Live big. Love big. And know that you can never run from your truth, so you best listen to your soul and know that it knows the way. You just have to drive the car. Trust. Trust. And love.
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jes099 It's in the space between the love we've lost and the love we hope to find where we meet ourselves. When we take the time to explore our minds and hearts and fall in love with our own company, we make it so loving us is no longer a job, but a privilege. Because we choose great love from that space, because our own company becomes so good that our future partner better add to our lives, or they won't be welcomed into it. Love should invite us to grow, not to shrink to accommodate it. 1mon

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jes099 We spend so much time wishing we could change the past because of where we've ended up, we forget that we are currently creating the future. We are in the midst of the story pissed about the first 50 pages... Not realizing we have thousands more pages to write. We forget that we can choose what our life is going to look like and we can have everything we've always wanted by doing what we do now.

Today, you get to decide. You get to choose what thoughts and memories you're going to let marinate in your mind. You get to choose whether your past is your anchor or the rocket ship to your destiny. You get to choose what each day is going to look like. Or, you get to stay where you are. You choose.
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